Zaza & Farid's Engagement Ceremony

23 July 2010:
It took us 5 years to get to this day.....i thought it would be easy...but i was wrong....me and Farid have decided to get it done the simplest way possible. We planned to have our engagement as more of an introduction between two families and the 'ring' was the only reason why we choose to have it called as an engagement instead of 'merisik'. But it did not tuned up the way we wanted it. When our family spokesperson came to my house a day before the day, he told us, no engagement can be done without 'tepak sirih' - mengikut adat resam orang melayu, especially if it involves royalty. I am not against the 'adat resam' but to me it is not a must! To me the ring IS the symbol of an engagement..but just not to make it a big fuss over it i listened to his advise. Supposedly i should have a tepak sirih for the guy and the guy will give back sirih junjung. But who the hell can make sirih junjung at this very short notice! So we decided to go for tepak sirih both from both sides. It was already 5:30pm and all i have is one empty tepak sirih. Another issue was when i had to pass this news to Farid and his family. I bet this will cause an issue between us. And it did at first until i mentioned it will all be prepared by us. Everyone else in the house are just too busy with their own things and i was the only one worried of the barang2 tepak sirih where i have no idea where to get it! So i started calling everyone and finally my very old friend from high school, Rastaherna saved my life! She told me not to worry much as she will find it. An hour after she came with the stuff and our excellent helpers, Kak Suraya, Mimi & Reza Saleh got it all nicely placed and decorated in the tepak. Thank god!
24 July 2010:
The ceremony started at 11am. I woke up at 830am, had a nice cup of coffee before i get myself ready. As it was a small ceremony, i decided to be my own make up artist and it turned out perfectly fine...at 1045am i was almost ready, and i was still feeling as cool as ever...until Farid called to tell me they will be arriving soon. My heart beats faster than ever. I could not breathe for a moment. And i could not feel my legs. I drank a glass of water and prayed really hard to keep myself calm. Less than 5 minutes after, i was called for the 'sarung cincin' ceremony. As i walked down the staircase, i could feel the tense in the room. I was praying really hard nothing went wrong while i was upstairs. As i sat down, Farid's mom came and put on the ring into my finger. I kissed her two hands asked for blessings. As she was hugging me, i could see her tears already started rolling down her cheek and so did i....her hug was the kinda hug i have been longing since my mom passed away... Allah has spared me another mother into my life.....Alhamdulillah.....Everything else went smoothly after the 'sarung cincin' ceremony. My dad and Farid's dad seem to be getting along quite well...i thank Allah for that too....